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He Said She Said: Giving Thanks

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 23, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, He Said She Said, Male Chastity, Marriage, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 6 comments

Happy Thanksgiving! Who among us doesn’t love dorky holiday-themed blog posts? 🙂 Today, we both want to talk about what we are thankful for in our lives sexually, since we can’t really talk about these things at the dinner table with family!

He Said:

The thing I’m most thankful for is that I somehow lucked into finding someone who enjoys the exact same kinks that I do. Female domination and orgasm denial were always things that excited me (chastity was a later development), and I’m extremely lucky to have married someone who shares those interests. I’ve seen so many people struggle to find a partner who shares their kinky desires, and I’m glad I never had to do that.

I’m also thankful that ML enjoys playing with, teasing, and using my cock. She could very easily lock my cock up and ignore it for however long she chooses, but that’s not her style. She enjoys edging me, making me crazy, instructing me to fuck her until she cums on my cock while denying me the whole time.

Lastly, I’m thankful that I married a wonderful woman who connects with me emotionally and sexually… and she has fucking incredible tits, too! Damn, they are awesome. 🙂

She Said:

I’m incredibly thankful to have a submissive husband. I’m completely and utterly a control freak. I need things to be in order and how I want them. I also need to know that I am wanted, desired and loved. Having a subby hubby, that I control and keep denied and achy and horny for me, is only natural. It fits who I am and what I need, exactly. It fills my love tank nice and full.

I will admit that I’m also very thankful for my hubby’s large cock. If his cock wasn’t so big, we could easily be in a cuckold situation where I’d need some big thick cock satisfaction. I don’t think I could actually do that so, I’m thankful that his cock is amazing and completely satisfying.

I’m so thankful to be married to a man that can handle the amount and level of teasing I give out. I am, by no means, easy when it comes to teasing and edging and denying him. He takes it all, anything I want to do to him or make him endure and I am incredibly thankful for his strength and resilience! 🙂

Loving It Both Ways

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 17, 2018
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

I really do love that My Lady keeps my cock locked up in a chastity cage. It can be frustrating at times, but I love that she keeps it controlled and that it’s hers and that it only gets hard when she allows it. I love that she wants it that way, too, and that she’s not just “doing it for me.”

But then again…

It is a nice feeling to wake up in the morning fucking rock hard and NOT have steel bars digging into the throbbing horny flesh of my cock. 🙂

Finally Out!

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 16, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

After 17 days of being locked in my chastity cage 100% of the time, My Lady finally unlocked me last night and within moments I was deep inside her wet, wanting pussy.

And within a few more moments, I was already being careful not to accidentally cum inside her.

It felt SOOOOOOOOOOOO good to finally be released from my cock cage after being locked inside for 2+ weeks – waaaaaay to long for a man to go without having an erection, in my opinion (especially with such a sexy wife with huge, beautiful tits and a deliciously wet horny pussy). ML stroked me for a few seconds before we started fucking, and even her hand wrapped around my cock felt incredible after being denied the sensation for so long.

But her pussy just feels so damn good!

She’s pretty tight under normal circumstances – which is pretty impressive, considering how big my cock is and how much I stretch her out, lol – but when I’m locked up for a while, she feels even tighter on me. But even with that, her pussy just knows how to take me. She gets so wet and slippery, her pussy squeezes me perfectly, and the sex is just fucking awesome.

We indulged in some morning sex today, with ML riding me a little bit before some bent-over-the-bed doggie – My Lady even had a nice good cum on my cock by the end of it. Then, with her excuse being that I was unable to fit my still-hard cock back into the Jailbird, she sent me to work uncaged. Her true plan was to keep me crazy all day long, though, since she has already had me sneak off twice to edge in the bathroom. I’m actually finding it hard to concentrate on anything with my cock free and unlocked like this, knowing at any moment ML could instruct me to tease myself even more for her.

The Beauty I See & the Control I Have

Posted by Lady M on November 5, 2018
Posted in: D/s, Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 2 comments

It seems like CM is always posting pics about what he wakes up to in the morning. How he thinks I’m beautiful and loves my body and boobs and all that. Well he’s not the only one that gets to wake up to complete sexiness beside him in the morning. This was my view yesterday morning as I woke up. I had to stop and tell him to freeze so I could take my own picture. I love how he looks, especially locked in his cage for me.

I love sleeping next to him naked. I love the way his skin feels. I love how he’s the perfect amount of warmth when I need it. I love how we can sleep all entangled up with each other and we both feel so incredibly comfortable. It’s amazing that we can snuggle up so close and fall asleep together like that.

I know at first I was a little worried about how I’d feel about him getting his nipples pierced but I really do like them and I love playing with them and making him squirm when I grab and pull on them. They really are fun and I look forward to finding fun ways to incorporate them into play. His nipple rings and cage really are extremely sexy.

So yesterday, I was feeling better than I had in a while so I decided it was time to take back control of things. Things with my house, my life, my kids and my hubby. It was time to get this house back in shape and cleaned up. I was almost like a drill sergeant, in a way, getting things going. At one point I told hubby I was sick of feeling like crap, sick of hurting and being sick and feeling like I was not in control. I told him, in a half whisper right at his mouth with my lips barely brushing his, that I was taking back my control, of the house, the kids and of him. I told him exactly what he would do to help clean. How he’d do laundry and anything else I asked and I even told him he could “shut his little fucking mouth” about how I went about getting this house back together. Lol it was surprising to me that I finally felt strong enough and good enough to use that tone with him.

I am the one who should control this house and control him, he gave me that control over 5 years ago. He chose to hand me his keys and trust that I could competently control him. I felt a lot of power yesterday and I felt in control and I needed it. My illness does not control me.

Time Flies

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 4, 2018
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Under normal circumstances, a week goes by pretty quickly – it’s crazy that it’s already November this year! But one thing that always slows time down is having my cock locked up 24/7.

ML has had me wearing the Jailbird since Monday, and she’s making up for lost time by making sure I’m locked up tight for a while. And “tight” is an understatement at times: I was reminded earlier in the week that I usually start having trouble sleeping about 3 days into a 24/7 lock up.

There hasn’t really been any talk of when I might be unlocked; the fact that it will be at least a month is kind of assumed, but after that… who knows? My Lady is keeping me denied of orgasms until Christmas at the earliest, could she also keep me locked unto then?

I Guess it’s Going to be a NOvember

Posted by Lady M on October 29, 2018
Posted in: Ass Play, Chastity Device, D/s, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

Football and Cheer season is juuuuuuust about over here in Monkeyland lol. We’ve had a very long season that felt like it’s gone on forever. We actually have one more cheer competition coming up this weekend but football and practice is done. Which means no more reason for my super horny, long denied, hubby to take off his cock cage. I don’t regret it at all since our kids won’t be young forever and I know that they will look back and remember that we were very involved parents when it comes to their sports and other activities. Now that we have time to get a little more back into our kink, I did some thinking today. We won’t have a ton of time but more than we did and, like I mentioned, now there isn’t the excuse of coaching to remove the cage.

This morning I realized that I’m really wanting CM to remember just who owns him and his body and his sexual pleasure. I also want him to remember what is important in this dynamic. That’s my pleasure and what I want. What I want for about the next month is to have CM locked him his cage 24/7. He needs that intense reminder that I control his cock and I’d I want it locked it will be locked and if I want it out it will be out.

The other part of this will be that each evening he will be having some kind of ass play while his cock is locked. That could mean he’ll wear one of our butt plugs – the njoy’s or even the remote plug – or he could be instructed to use a toy on his ass and maybe the wand as well to get his cock dripping precum from his cage. On the nights, when possible, I will likely have him get out the little tripod or selfie stick and take me some really slutty pictures. It would be so humiliating to have to take pics & video of himself violating his own ass because I told him to. Then I can choose to show friends the pictures or maybe even post them on the blog.

I did explain to him that I want him to do this for me and use these toys to keep his ass ready for me… You know, should I have a need to use his ass for something it would be ready. I know, after a couple weeks of being used daily with no use of his penis he might get to a point of wanting to stop… And it won’t stop until I say it stops. He really has no choice in the matter.

So, hopefully, we have a few exciting weeks coming up here in November! 🙂

Feedback & Questions

Posted by Lady M on October 28, 2018
Posted in: Conversations, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

We got some awesome feedback today about the podcast and a couple questions, as well, that I figured I’d take a moment to answer. We always appreciate when our readers or listeners give us feedback or just want to write and say, “Hi!” Don’t be shy! 🙂

Love it! The punishment /funishment thing to me is one of countless blurred outlines of that classic BDSM conundrum… if I want to be punished then how can it be a punishment? In my head, it still can be – especially (to your point) if you know your partner and love them enough to exploit that knowledge.

Love getting feedback like this. This is why we love having the conversations we do on our podcast. Having a relationship, kinky, vanilla or whatever really does come down to communication and knowing your partner. Amazing things can happen when you know, just as this gentleman states, how to exploit the knowledge!
I confess that I’ve only listened to a couple podcasts now (just found you guys on Friday), so I apologize if you’ve gone over all of this stuff many times before, but man I have so many questions 😛 Feel free to ignore them…
That’s ok… some times answering things again is a good thing for someone who is new around here. We have answered these before here in the blog and possibly on the podcast but I don’t mind answering them again.
Do you still control / keep other guys in chastity besides caged M? If so, how many? How do you find the time and energy to keep up with that?
I no longer have “subs on the side” and there are two reasons for this. A) I tend to be a bit too intense for most people and they end up not handling being dominated by me very well. The whole fantasy vs reality thing… I make things very real and the intensity of the reality becomes too overwhelming. When I have subs I put my whole self into it and when boys get overwhelmed by me I tend to get myself hurt in the process. And then, B) well like you mentioned, time. I just don’t have it anymore. When I was a stay at home mom I had a lot more time to spend focusing on kinky things. Now I work outside the home, have to take care of my home, kids and they are very active kids and we are involved parents… It leaves very little time for extracurricular activities.
I remember hearing caged M adamantly defining a limit about physically playing with other people, but that you guys might role play with the idea from time to time. How does that generally look for y’all?
There is a really great post here on the blog about Pseudo-cuckolding that you may find helpful in regards to this question. We do not play outside our marriage… At least not with men. We have talked in the past couple years about me having an Alpha sub female to play with but so far we haven’t found anyone that fits.

For me, chastity is inextricably linked with cuckolding, but the reality of that fantasy carries potentially damaging emotional remnants… I’m so curious on how you guys feel about that and if the implication exists in some form within your D/s dynamic.

We have seen how a lot of times people automatically think chastity = cuckolding but we try hard to get across that that’s not necessarily true. That chastity is not specifically one thing or another. It doesn’t have to be this or that. Just because someone is in chastity does not mean the partner goes out fucking other people. Chastity is exactly what the couple wants it to be. It certainly CAN be all those things or none of them. It’s up to the couple to decide what chastity is for them.
Thanks so much for sharing your story so openly and responding : ) I fucking love the internet.
Thank you, so much, for the great feedback and the questions. Hopefully I’ve successfully answered them but please feel free to ask whatever else you want to ask! 🙂 and yeah the internet is pretty awesome!

Feelings for the Cock

Posted by Lady M on June 25, 2018
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, orgasm control. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

The other day Cagedmonkey posted an update about our current chastity and denial situation. We had mentioned that starting at his birthday he’d locked for an extended period and denied for a hell of a lot longer. Well, like he updated, the whole lock up thing didn’t go as planned!

If you know my history at all, you know around 3 weeks of having him locked, I start to desperately miss that big cock and feeling it inside me. Well, CM had only been locked 2 weeks when we went to NY for the weekend. We had such an amazing weekend, so loving and sexual and teasy and by the time we got home I was really missing the feeling of his cock, so while I wasn’t planning on having him out, in the heat of a very sexy moment I made him get out of his cage – that was a huge feat since he was rock hard in that cage – and give me the cock I so desperately needed. 🙂

Then comes the next day… I felt so bad, I felt like I’d let him down because I know sometimes we talk about pushing further or doing things longer, harder, more intense and I just couldn’t. There comes this point where I need to feel that connection with him physically and emotionally. Where I need to have him completely and without a cage in between us. However, I still felt bad and like I wasn’t good enough. I got into the “I’ll never be able to give him what he wants” thoughts and I’m worthless, yadda yadda yadda.

The point of this post is to let other women know that this happens… The most important reason for this post is to remind women we are in charge and ultimately we decide when, if and how our guys are locked up and even more importantly, this post is to remind everyone how important communication is. When I started to feel this way I told Cagedmonkey, right away, how I was feeling. I didn’t want it to continue to grow when it was much easier to talk about and work through and not put my feelings on him. I certainly can feel like I’m letting him down but knowing that he’s not let down and that he’s all good with what happened, and good with whatever happens, makes getting through the feelings that much better.

Update

Posted by cagedmonkey on June 22, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Marriage, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

Hi everybody!

We’ve been slacking a bit on the posts lately because we’ve been so busy here and there; we also took a little road trip last weekend and also took the time to visit some friends, which ended up being a very fun time! I’m sure you’ll be “hearing” about it pretty soon!

With that said, many people have been asking us how things are going since starting the longer lockup and even lengthier denial. Well, I think it’s not a big surprise that I’m horny as fuck at the moment. 🙂

The longer lockup didn’t go as long as My Lady had planned for it to go – she was initially looking for at least a month, but it was only a little more than two weeks before she let me out for sex. I know, it’s such a pain that she wants my cock inside her so badly, ammirite? My Lady was feeling a little down about the whole thing, thinking that she let me down in some way, but I was MORE than happy to get my cock in her pussy. 🙂 Seriously, I don’t get “disappointed” by things like that anymore, mainly because I don’t set expectations that I feel NEED to be filled, or else it won’t live up to my fantasy… I mean, I’m basically living a fantasy as is, why would I need anything more than what I already have? As long as ML is happy with what transpires, then that is all that I want.

As far as orgasms go: I still haven’t cum since my birthday, after a weekend where I had more orgasms than I’ve had over the past 3 years combined at least. ML was trying to make me cum so much to the point where I wanted to stop, but I think she underestimated what these last 5 years have done to me! I’m not sure how many times I came (maybe somewhere in the teens, perhaps?), but after so many years of extreme denial I felt like I could definitely do more. It might take 20 or 30 before I feel sufficiently caught up. 🙂

Orgasm denial has never been a major problem for ML to deal with, at least during the first handful of months; we got through six months pretty easily during our last long run…or, maybe I should say she got through easily, I was out of my mind desperate to cum after two. This time around, we are taking a “let’s see what happens” approach to it all: ML wants to go at least six months, then who knows? Going for a full year or orgasm denial would be an amazing milestone, but if it doesn’t happen, then no biggie. And, on the flip side, if she feels like she wants to go more than a year…. um, well, that would be a big biggie for me, but I guess I would have to go along with it.

Mail Chastity: Punishment

Posted by Lady M on June 3, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

D & J are a couple that read our blog. They recently sent an email asking for help with appropriate punishment. I’m extremely lucky in having a very good boy who does not push the boundaries so punishment doesn’t not come up often. It’s not something I enjoy having to do.

D & J wrote:

This weekend I have gone away for a few days, on Thursday night my cage worked itself off and I couldn’t get it back on as the key is 2.5 hrs away.
On Thursday night I edged myself once, haven’t done anything else but this is a serious infraction in our relationship.
Previous punishments have been whipping, and a few minutes with clover clamps. Extending chastity has never been a punishment as my wife has never set a time frame to extend until now.
Can you suggest an appropriate punishment please?

My suggestion for punishment may not be like others since I’m not too big into giving them. When it comes to punishment for us I take things away from Cagedmonkey, such as parts of my body, pleasing me or even playing video games. There have been times where I took away chastity and any attention to his penis. Those things really are punishment for him because he enjoys our play and taking that away is really the best way to keep him in line. I don’t really use spanking, etc for punishment as that is more “funishment.”

So the reason for this post is to ask our readers what their suggestions would be in this situation for punishment. What have you or your Mistress done as punishment in this situation? If you haven’t been in this situation, what would you do? What do you feel is an appropriate punishment for edging without permission?

Please comment here in the comment section so D & J can read your responses!! Thanks 🙂