My dynamic with cagedmonkey has always been built on communication. That is fundamentally what all relationships should be built on. During our journey, cagedmonkey and I have had previous conversations talking about pseudo-cuckolding and “my boyfriend” (who happened to be a decent sized dildo). We’d never talked seriously about adding a real life someone, as a matter of fact we’d talked about the opposite. Life, however, has a way of reminding you that things change in ways you could never expect.
It’s almost comedic, isn’t it? Something we were pretty much against has become an important part of our relationship. This was entirely new territory. It was scary, for me! I think it was scary for all of us but you’ll have to ask them yourself! (Feel free to comment!) The whole thing required conversations… endless, rigorous conversations. We had to work through boundaries, logistics, and yes, the inevitable human kinks like, insecurities. But we committed to finding a dynamic that worked for all three of us, built on the non-negotiable principle of honesty and respect. It wasn’t always smooth… it ISN’T always smooth. Everyday we continue to work out the rough spots but thats just how this goes.
I’m sure you’re dying to know the who, the what, the where, when and all that stuff so I wont leave you waiting any more! This all began back in 2014 on a male chastity forum, driven by a simple, shared common interest. John and I were both moderators there in that little corner of the digital world. For years, our interactions were sporadic – polite banter between two people who fundamentally understood this lifestyle. We spent around 8 years building a foundation of friendship from a distance with the occasional check in emails to find out how each other and our families were doing. It was always great to hear from him. But time is merely a tool for the powerful, and as 2022 rolled in, the tool started working overtime.
Suddenly, our conversations shifted focus. the pleasantries faded, and the core of what we both desired came into view: control. We started discussing his lock, the key that needed to be mine, and the control he needed and I thrived on. Things accelerated quickly, feelings grew bigger than anyone ever expected and just like that, I didn’t just have a long-distance friend; I had a new, devoted partner. A boyfriend who is now, quite rightly, locked in chastity 24/7 under my command,, among other things. 😜
With the newly decided polyamorous relationship that cagedmonkey, John and I were working on establishing came the need to explain to the children how there would be another man visiting and sleeping in mom and dads room. 🙂 Once the adult foundation was solid, I sat down with my kids who were 14 and 17 at the time – old enough to understand that the world is complex, and savvy enough to know that alternative lifestyles exist. I approached them with the confidence of a woman who knows her truth.
I was very blunt and got right to it, asking:
“What do you know about polyamory?”
They offered a general, acceptable answer. The younger had a basic idea of what it was and the older knew just what I was talking about because she is Poly herself.
“Good, I’m glad you understand. Because Dad and I are evolving our lifestyle. I will have a boyfriend. We are adding love to our family.”
And their response? Pure, unadulterated acceptance.
“Cool! When do we get to meet him?”
No drama. No fear. Just curiosity and support. I believe this is the result of raising children in an environment of total transparency. They don’t shrink from their mother’s strength; they salute it.
The relationship between cagedmonkey, John, and me is one of negotiation, emotional intelligence, and relentless commitment. It’s built on three unique sets of needs, all working toward a shared success. It’s not “conventional,” but since when has Madam Allure ever aimed for conventional? 🙂
Sometimes, the most exquisite things start with a random connection and bloom into a beautifully complex reality that is entirely, unapologetically ours. And sometimes, your children simply remind you that living your truth is the ultimate act of power.
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There’s a quiet kind of allure in power – one that hums beneath the surface rather than flashes in bold strokes. It’s never just about the lock, the key, or the cage. It’s in the anticipation, the glances, the knowing smirk across the room. For me, that’s where some of the real seduction lives.
When my husband and I first began exploring male chastity, it was thrilling and raw. We played with duration, with denial, with the rules. There were weeks, months even, when he was locked and utterly at my mercy, and I loved every second of it. But something began to shift in me. Tease and denial took on a new tone. It wasn’t about how long he could go locked; it became about how long I could keep him in that delicious state of arousal, balanced on the edge and aching. Oftentimes I’d let him out but not let him have. That, to me, was power. And it was intoxicating.
But as life often does, it moved – fast and full. Let me tease you a little before we get any deeper into denial, and talk a little about the reality of living this life. It’s not all perfect fun and sexy games. That’s something we’ve always wanted to make clear here from the beginning. Right after moving into the second house in Indiana and getting through the crazy world we all lived through in 2020 the kids were hitting middle school, then high school. Between school activities, multiple work & teaching schedules, sports practices, my own health issues – which were many and a big struggle – and the daily chaos of life, the hours I once spent plotting sensual mind games became precious and rare.
And I won’t sugarcoat it… those hot, teasing nights happened less and less. Not because the desire disappeared, but because the space for it shrunk. My kink didn’t die; it simply got quieter. It rode in the backseat while I drove the family minivan… well SUV but you get it and held the world together.
Somewhere along the way, I realized that getting older came with its own kind of allure – a deeper, more grounded one. It’s in knowing what I want and owning when I no longer have the energy to chase it like I used to. And that’s okay. The truth is, control doesn’t always have to be loud or constant. Sometimes it’s in the knowing glance when he walks by, the subtle touch that reminds him who I am… Who we are. Even if the device hasn’t come out in months.
It’s not about fading away, it’s about evolving. The kinks are still there, just dressed a little differently these days. And honestly? That teasing from afar, can be even hotter now that we’ve lived through all the loud, fast parts of life.
To those of you lovely readers who are in the middle of the storm of life, don’t feel guilty if your fetish takes a nap. It doesn’t mean you’re less kinky. It just means you’re human. Power shifts. Desires grow up with us. And sometimes, the softest form of dominance is just making them wait… longer than they ever thought they could.
More to come,
Madam Allure
In October 2013, my husband and I began this blog to chronicle our journey into male chastity. Back then, I chose the name Lady M. It felt elegant, mysterious, and perfectly suited to who I was at the time — a woman stepping into her dominant side, learning, experimenting, and exploring what power exchange could mean for both of us.
For over a decade, Lady M has been my identity here and, in some ways, in my life. Through her, I discovered my voice, my style, and my passion for the intricate dance of Male Chastity, FemDom, BDSM, and the intoxicating psychology of control and power. She was the beginning of something extraordinary.
But growth is inevitable. Over the past 13 years, I’ve changed — not into someone different, but into someone more. More skilled. More experienced. More deliberate. More aware of the depth and power of my Dominance. What once was exploration is now embodiment; what once was curiosity is now mastery.
And so, my name must evolve with me.
From this point forward, I will be known as Madam Allure.
You may be asking yourself, why did she choose that? Well that’s pretty simple:
“Allure” captures everything I’ve grown into. It speaks of temptation, magnetism, control — the ability to draw someone in, to hold them there, to keep them wanting. It embodies not only the sensuality and elegance I’ve cultivated, but also the confidence and skill that years of experience have forged.
This is not a farewell to Lady M. She will always be a part of me, just as those early days of chastity exploration with my husband will always be part of our story. Rather, this is an evolution — a claiming of who I have become, and an invitation for you to step with me into the next chapter of our journey.
Until next time,
Madam Allure
Hello, my lovelies—
Have you missed us? 👋 It’s been far too long since I last sat down here to share our life with you in our little corner of the internet. Life has a way of sweeping us up and spinning us around, and that’s exactly what happened. But here I am, heels planted firmly, ready to catch you up.
A lot has changed since our last post in January of 2021. I can’t believe it’s been that long. Since then our family made the big leap to Texas. There is so much new! New home, new cars, new jobs, new schools, new routines—it has been a whirlwind of fresh starts. The Lone Star State has been an adventure in more ways than one.
And then, 2022, something even bigger began to shift. Our dynamic—our rhythm, our dance—started to evolve. But you don’t think I’m going to spill all my secrets right now, do you? You know me better than that. I am, after all, a tease. And a Domme never shows her whole hand at once. That story deserves its own post. For now, I’ll simply say this: monkey has been uncaged 🔒 for maybe a couple of years now… and oh, what fun it’s been to play without bars. Don’t worry though, I still get my fill of keeping a chastity cage locked 🔒 🔑 24/7. You’ll hear all about that, in time. Savor the moment, will you? ❤️
The journey has been messy, beautiful, eye-opening, and yes—deliciously wicked at times. There’s been tears, laughter, lessons, growth and plenty of stories I’m itching to share. And through it all, one thing hasn’t changed: my love for tease and denial (and so many other things!) and telling you all about it.
So thank you for waiting, for peeking 👀 back here now and then, for holding this space for me. I’ve missed it. I’ve missed you. And now? I’m back.
Thinking of you all,
And you will now address me as Madam… If you address me at all.
The other morning, I got out of bed before Cagedmonkey and he sent me this absolutely sexy picture of him laying there. I just love it, I love the way he looks, his tattoo (such an amazing reminder of our relationship and dynamic) and even the sheets… It’s all so sexy and beautiful and poetic to me.
Anyway, I seriously just wanted to share!
A couple weeks ago we posted a blog post about how it’s been 226 days for Cagedmonkey since his last orgasm and a friend, at She rules the Rooster, had some really good questions I figured we should answer in a post as opposed to them getting lost in the comments section. I’m sure other people have had the thought about what I’m getting out of such a long denial period for hubby. I mean, if we were poly or into cuckolding, that answer would be easy but we aren’t so it becomes a bit more complicated in the “what does Lady M get out of it” area.
When it comes down to what I’m doing daily… My sheer extreme sexiness is what teases him, don’t you know?!?! Lmao Seriously though the daily stuff is all about the little things. I’ve pointed out in posts before and even in a podcast if I remember right about the little things. Keeping things talked about, even if it’s in text message or little flirty butt grabs when the kids aren’t around. Making him kneel in front of me while I sit on the couch… It might look innocent enough like daddy is snuggling with mom giving her a hug but to CM and I there is much more behind it.
Making sure that we both know the why’s behind the denial and the lock up are so important. Otherwise, it just becomes an afterthought and can actually become work. So talking about and knowing that I love to see and feel the frustration he is going through makes my pussy wet causes an amazing circle of turning him on which again just turns me on.
At the moment, pleasing me in some fashion is at least three times a week but we say there is so much more to intimacy than actual sex so much more becomes pleasing. CM is pleasing me daily but that wouldn’t look like him eating my pussy or making me come or any of that… It’s more like a back rub or spooning snuggle time or maybe just some boobie play time. Yes most days of the week I am having him give my pussy some mouth attention and maybe some fingering. The day to day stuff though isn’t some long intense teasing session. During the week we are usually tired and in bed early for a 4:30 or 5am wake up. So they are quick “my pussy needs good night kisses” while I run my nails across his back and butt type nights.
There are nights I make him sit or kneel at the side of the bed with his arms clasped behind him. I will take my boobs and smoosh them in his face, make him smell and lick under them so he can’t really get an idea of my day. Then I may run my nipples across his lips, not allowing him to open his mouth. It’s so fun to watch and feel his breathing as he gets so frustrated, desperately wanting to feel it in his mouth and on his tongue. He will even whimper and beg sometimes, “please.” hahaha I love it so much!
I’ll be honest with you… I have in no way been counting how many orgasms I’ve had. I just have them when I have them and when I want them. Most nights our pleasing and teasing is a short thing so I don’t even really want to cum. It’s more work on a woman than you think lol. It takes a lot of thinking and then there’s this whole body muscle tightening thing that goes on. With my chronic pain, orgasms tend to last a few days within my muscles and make things sore so it’s just as good to enjoy the pleasing than to have some intense orgasms all the time. If I were to really think about it is probably been about 1 a week average… So you figure that out… About 300 days divided by 7 lol!
Anyway, thanks for the comment and I do apologize for the delay in getting it posted… It’s sat in my drafts and been worked on as much as I can when I get a moment! I appreciate you reading and being subscribed! If you haven’t checked out She Rules the Rooster, yet, what are you waiting for? It’s always fun to see how other people live their lifestyle… Get on it!
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!
The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.
Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.
Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!
So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!
It was over seven years ago that Cagedmonkey and I started this chastity journey. No, we didn’t start out in steel nor a custom device. However, seven years ago was when we purchased our first steel custom device from Mature Metal and that changed everything about our journey.
I was chatting yesterday with Mistress MM at Mature Metal and we got to talking about CM’s cage sizes so I had to go look up my old emails from our last cage purchase. It ended up being exactly 5 years from yesterday that we had purchased our most recent cage.
As you can see, this cage, is a Jail Bird like he always wears but we had an extra ring added to the cage itself. I really like the look of this cage. It’s definitely my favorite out of all of our cages.
Since it’s been 5 years since we have gotten anything new… I was thinking about possibly getting a new cage or maybe looking at the locking cock rings and other fun stuff william makes. I’m pretty interested in the base ring with the dildo option. That would certainly keeps things exciting without having to remove the cage.
Cagedmonkey wrote recently about committing to the cage and I have to say, I’m actually very happy to have him back in 24/7. There is something about it that just makes it so that much more exciting and intense. I told him, the next time we have sex, I may still not let him out. I certainly do love how big and buldgy he gets through the cage bars.
Cagedmonkey and I had the wonderful pleasure of spending time with the Beauty and the brains behind Mature Metal male chastity devices. Featured here in this special edition, extended length, podcast are not only us but Mistress MM, herself and william!
Thank you again for having us and also agreeing to chat with us a bit about your company and yourselves! We love you guys and can’t wait to see you again for more fun times in Texas! Hehe
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A couple months ago, after we were already a few months into this time we are living, cagedmonkey and I decided we needed to get away. We didn’t want to go too soon so we planned it out for August 1st. Definitely thought the world would have a better handle on a virus after 8 months but whatever, we wanted a break from reality. Little did we know that this little break we planned would be one of the best trips we’ve ever taken!
Last week we hopped a plane and flew to Texas (kids, too!) to finally meet and hang out with friends we’ve known for about 7 years. The weather was warm but actually really great all week. It stayed mostly in the upper 80’s to 90 and sunny and just gorgeous. We spent the week away from other people and the hustle and bustle of the world. It was quiet and relaxing and much needed. Lots of time spent swimming, talking, laughing, enjoying amazing food and getting to know each other. The kids went lizard hunting and 4 wheeling and fishing, and so much more. It was lots of fun! I could seriously get into more but I’m sure you’re sitting there wondering why I’m telling you about some vacation we took with the kids to Texas when this blog is about chastity, right?
First of all, you know us and we like to tell you stories about how chastity fits into real life and marriage with kids. So I’ll start off with cagedmonkey did not fly to Texas caged! I know, I know, you all are disappointed with me that I didn’t send him through TSA with his steel cage on so he could be searched. Lol Honestly, I would have had no issues with him wearing it or sending it through in his bag, however, I really didn’t need a show when our kids were with us. Had we been alone, that little bit of humiliation would have been fun. TSA really is discreet and are not announcing what they find or are searching for in your bag. They are calm and quiet and very nice. So… We had an uncaged monkey for the week we were in Texas.
Now, to the most exciting part… Why Texas?!?! Well because our friends from Mature Metal are in Texas, of course!
Now you see why I mentioned the uncaged thing lol. I found it ironic that we finally get to meet the creators and makers of the cage I have hubby’s cock locked in every day and he’s not even locked in it!
We had such a fun week getting to know Mistress MM & william and we even got to see where all the magic happens! I really did think the shop would be a little bigger than it was. It totally makes sense, though, for ease and suited everything is just about in reach. One thing we noticed all over was the abundance of keys and M’s all over their house. I mean it is Mature Metal and it’s all about keeping important things locked up!
It was really wonderful hearing about how they got started and how it truly is a family owned and run business. Heck, I’m pretty sure we became family being down there lol Mistress MM even put the kids to work! Just think, next time you order a cage, your Keys could have been packed by my kid. Lol
My favorite things we learned while visiting were about Mistress MM & william as people, how they met, what their kinks are and how life is for them. And it was weirdly exciting to find out how alike Mistress MM & I are! We think so alike, like the same things and even finished each other’s sentences! It was like I found my long lost sister!
I certainly don’t want you thinking we kept it all completely vanilla while we were there with the kids. We did find some time to sneak in some impact play with our boys one night. That was lots of fun too! We even found out we like to beat the boys just about the same haha! I was able to get some good marks on cagedmonkey that night but they didn’t last too long into the next day. Maybe I needed to beat him a little longer but somebody was hungry for some ham & cheese! Hahaha
Anyway, keep an eye on the blog over the next couple days, we are working on putting up a very special podcast for your enjoyment! Also, a special thank you to our friends at Mature Metal for an amazing week and letting us into your world! Love you guys and your definitely our family now! Can’t wait to see you again soon!