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Keyholder Dilemma – Do I Want Him To Disobey Me?

Posted by Lady M on January 27, 2014
Posted in: Discipline, Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , . 3 comments

Being a wife and Keyholder can bring on a lot of confusing and conflicting feelings. Especially when it comes to whether or not we want to allow our sweet locked up boys to orgasm.

I noticed last night as cagedmonkey and I were messing around that I had this feeling of wanting him to be so horny for me that he would just take me. That’s all fine and dandy because I have such a devoted, good boy that I can take his hand and put it on the back of my head and he knows I want him to grab my hair, flip me on to the couch and slide into me. What he also knows is that I don’t want him to cum while having his way with me… and he won’t.

While 99.999999% of the time I do not want him to, I really think there is this itty bitty part of me that wishes I could push him past the point of being a good boy. I said, I THINK! It really felt like it last night. I felt like I wished he was so horny he would disobey me. Of course if he did, he’d be punished for it because it would be cumming without permission but maybe part of me wants that? Maybe part of me wants him to disobey so I can punish him? I really DON’T want him to cum. However, there is this little part of me wants to know if I’m THAT irresistible. Could I possibly get him so horny that it pushes him so far as to not be the extremely devoted good boy that he is.

Perhaps just getting him to a begging, pleading, practically crying mess will satisfy my “am I irresistible?” feeling. It’s so frustrating because like I said I really don’t want him to but maybe I do want him to challenge me!

Anyway… I’m not sure what I really want but cagedmonkey and I talked about this very thing today because that’s what you do in a relationship. You talk, about everything! I told him how conflicting the feelings were but that the “don’t orgasm” feelings beat out the “disobey me” ones. We talked about how we could get to a point of, in the moment, letting him know that he had a choice to obey my rules or disobey them. Well really he always has that choice but if he disobeyed at any other time I would be extremely disappointed and probably get depressed and his punishment would be pretty severe. If there was that moment of me being like “well I wouldn’t be devastated if he was so so so bad that he just had to disobey me and take me” I would need to be able to let him know. If it was a moment like that where I let him know with a few choice words there would still be consequences but perhaps no where near as harsh as him making that decision on his own whim.

I’m telling you… if you ever think your wife, girlfriend, partner and Keyholder has an easy job, you are very mistaken! A lot of us get these conflicted feelings. That’s not to say everyone does but I’m sure a good amount of us do.

Male Chastity Makes Me Horny

Posted by Lady M on January 26, 2014
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

You probably thought this post would be from cagedmonkey, huh? Well it’s not, it’s from me! This whole chastity thing seriously gets me going. I’m constantly horny, constantly wet, ready and waiting to be pleased.

It’s so crazy that sometimes I’ll misread things and turn them sexual. And even the other night cagedmonkey was eating a tomato – yes a tomato – and I got all kinds of turned on. The way he was eating it and slurping up the juices reminded me so much of him eating my pussy. I just love it so much to lay back, head on a pillow, back arched, legs spread while he kisses, licks, sucks and pleases my pussy. How he basically makes out with my pussy lips and tongues my clit.

I really just shook my like, “why the hell an I thinking like that?” LoL

I Lost Count – Multiple Female Orgasms

Posted by Lady M on January 24, 2014
Posted in: Male Chastity, Sex. Tagged: , , , , . 1 comment

Holy macaroni! What a night! Wooooooo doggies! *giggle*

What a good night tonight with my cagedmonkey. After we got the kids put to bed we hung out, played video games and watched a Dexter on Netflix. Right after the show ended I climbed up on my sweet boy and started kissing him. I really had no other plans than to make out a bit with him before he had to go to work.

Boy, oh, boy! Did that ever turn into some kinda craziness! We were kissing heavier and heavier and groping each other and then cagedmonkey grabbed my big beautiful breasts and started squeezing and massaging them just so perfectly. I sat up while he was doing that, as if I was riding him and felt these tingles all through my chest and stomach and down into my crotch. It wasn’t long before I was up there cumming right in my pants. That opened the flood gates as it was like one right after the other up there. I soaked my panties, my pants, the blanket cagedmonkey was lying under and even got his boxers wet! Pure and utter craziness, I say! I seriously lost count as to how many it was.

I was already on the edge after that and when my lovely, talented boy got up to get ready for work he shoved his face between my legs and ate my pussy to another quick orgasm. I just couldn’t stop myself and while he was getting dressed to go and I masturbated myself to another couple and then just before walking out the door he used his fingers to bring me to two more.

It quite simply turned into an amazing night and I ended up being serviced until I felt absolutely amazing! I’m so incredibly pleased and happy and I feel fantastic! I couldn’t ask for a better equipped boy, he knows exactly how to please his Lady.

Where Do You Buy Your Sex Toys?

Posted by Lady M on January 22, 2014
Posted in: Advice, Male Chastity, Sex. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

There are so many websites out there selling sex toys, how is a person to know which ones are reputable, secure, trustworthy or have good customer service?

I have purchased toys from a few different places now and I haven’t had any issues. The one place I love getting stuff is through Athena’s Home Novelties because they have such a large variety of items. They also sell Coochy Shave Cream and man, that stuff is awesome. No razor burn or rashes after shaving… such smooth moisturized skin after! Their stuff is delivered in discrete packaging and shipping time has always been fantastic.

You can even find a local Athenas rep and host a party and earn party host rewards and all that good stuff. Doing things that way can sometimes save on shipping since the party order can be ordered together. Though you can order right from the website as well.

One of the other things is, that usually every month they have these great deals where you get hundreds of dollars worth of products for real cheap. They include at least 1 sex toy and just a bunch of other things. Currently there is one going until mid February.
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Haha get it Submit to Savings! Cute, huh?

Anyway, the whole reason in writing this post is because this is a good website, with good products, good customer service and it’s a business you can trust!

***Please note: I am merely reviewing a site where I purchase toys. This is in no way my business, nor are we receiving any compensation for this post. It’s simply a good business and I felt they deserved some recognition.

Doctor Domme – Hematospermia

Posted by Lady M on January 20, 2014
Posted in: Male Chastity, Medical, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 2 comments

So you might have read about the Unexpectedness of the last couple days. We had a very big scare but I did my best to stay calm, I did my research as always and then tried to get a handle on cagedmonkey’s anxiety.

Well one thing I can say about this is that I have now expanded my knowledge and that it something I just love doing!

So have you ever experienced blood in your semen? Well that’s called Hematospermia. It’s often seen as no big deal, blood in the ejaculate can scare the shit out of the men who experience it and their partners. The condition is common, and many times it can go unnoticed because most times ejaculation are, well, in a vagina. In most patients with hematospermia, no further workup is needed; however, in some patients, hematospermia may be the first indicator of other urologic diseases.

Hematospermia can occur in males of any age. In men younger than 40, hematospermia is uniformly benign. Even in older men, it is rarely associated with malignancy. In cases of blood in the semen with no other symptoms, is referred to as self-limited.

Most patients have more than one episode, occurring over weeks to months. If there is blood in the ejaculate that lasts for more than 10 ejaculations it’s a good idea to see a doctor for an evaluation.

The physical examination should include measuring the patient’s blood pressure because severe high blood pressure is associated with hematospermia. While doctors do recognize this, it is unknown why exactly it occurs but it may have a similar basis to the association of hypertension with nosebleeds.

The etiology is not specifically known and isn’t understood well. Most commonly, it can be from nonspecific inflammation of the urethra, prostate and/or seminal vesicles. It can also come from broken blood vessels which could be cause by many different things.

Funny enough some of the reasons for self-limited hematospermia are:

Vigorous sex (well, yeah, after a month it can get rough)
Prolonged Sexual Abstinence (uhhh, hello chastity)
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interrupted sex (I take that as edging/ruined orgasms)

The symptoms that can accompany blood in the semen may be any of the following, depending upon the cause (these are not all of them):

Painful urination
Pain with ejaculation
Blood in urine
Lower back pain
Fever
Tenderness in the testes and/or scrotum
Swelling in the testes and/or scrotum
Swelling or tenderness in the groin area

The primary treatment of hematospermia is to ease the anxiety of the guy it’s happening to. Hematospermia is rarely associated with significant pathology, especially in younger men. The 3 factors that dictate the extent of the evaluation and treatment include 1. patient age, 2. the duration and recurrence of the hematospermia, and 3. the presence of any associated hematuria.

Really what it comes down to is if you have blood in your semen with testicular pain, burning or pain with urination, fever, swelling or any other symptom it is a good idea to get to a doctor. If you have blood in your semen and you’re over 40 years you should see a doctor. If you have blood in your semen and no other symptoms at all you are likely ok to wait it out a few weeks (at least 10 ejaculations) to see if it clears up on its own. If it doesn’t clear up after that it’s best to see a doctor.

I’m glad I’m the kind of person to research the shit out of stuff. To understand what is going on before freaking out – most of the time! Even armed with this knowledge cagedmonkey and I made a decision together to have a “honeymoon” of sorts from the chastity device and the Tease & Denial.

I’m worried that many things contributed to this happening… things like a possible ill fitting base ring, 25 days of tease and denial, very intense teasing while in the cage, possibly too rough pegging… any of these things could have been a factor in making this happen. Then again, it could have been none of it and it just happened.

All I know is that I love my cagedmonkey and I’m going to do everything possible to keep him safe and healthy. He is my heart and soul and I’d be nothing without him.

Mommy, What’s This?

Posted by Lady M on January 19, 2014
Posted in: Male Chastity, Marriage. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

OMFG! Cagedmonkey was unlocked for our anniversary so we hid the JailBird in the back of a drawer no one ever goes in. Sure enough, out walks our 8yo daughter with the steel cock cage in her hand asking, “Mommy, What’s this? It looks like a metal sock!”

Holy crap! Hahaha so freaking funny… I think my hubby and I both about wanted to die! I just told her, “yup, it sure does look like a sock!” And daddy quickly says “it’s a piece to something for the plumbing” haha not totally untrue… just that it goes to HIS plumbing.

Oh man that was freakin hilarious! That’ll teach us to put our toys away when we’re not using them! 😀

The Beginning of Another Year – Happy Anniversary!

Posted by Lady M on January 18, 2014
Posted in: Male Chastity, Marriage. Tagged: , , , . 3 comments

I can’t believe that it has been 11 years since we got married. 11 years since we made that commitment to each other and to God. How can I even begin to put into words what being married to you feels like? How do I describe how you make me feel?

Our anniversary is a time to remember the good times, reflect on the bad and a time to look ahead to our dreams together. Do you remember when we were first dating? Remember spending every moment possible with each other and spending every other moment thinking about each other? Do you remember talking on the phone for hours and hours about anything and everything? Do you remember smiling constantly thinking about one other and anticipating the next time we saw each other? Do you remember laughing so hard? Do you remember the joy of being in love and knowing you were loved back just as much? Do you remember the thrill of it all? Do you feel how all of these things have come back, after so many years, with the introduction of Male Chastity in our marriage? It is a blessing to fall in love but to fall in love with my best friend is so rare and beyond expectations.

I Love you for so many reasons, I Love you for opening my eyes and showing me my self-worth. I Love you for being my strength when I am weak, I Love you for being my rock through hard times and I Love you for the caring person that you are.

I love that we get excited about the same little things. The simple things – a holiday, watching an episode of our favorite tv show, a gloss of wine, tossing each other mini marshmallows, going for a walk, sharing desserts, laughing till we cry. I love that glowing look you get in your eyes right before you tell me you love me. I love that you ask me how I am feeling—for no reason. Just because you want to make sure I’m doing okay.

My words can’t possibly express what my heart feels so deeply. You love me just the way God created me, with every scar and imperfection. You see past my outward flaws into the depths of my heart and you love me just the same. Just one look from you and I know everything is going to be ok.
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Our lives are busy and our days are full, but somehow you always manage to make me feel like the center of your world. Every day, in a thousand ways, you tell me how much you love me and though I often take it for granted, I couldn’t imagine life without your sweet service, gestures and affection:

…”I love you,” whispered in my ear each morning when you get in from work,

…washing dishes and laundry in the evening,

…curling up to you after the kids are in bed and listening to your voice as we talk about anything and everything,

…rubbing my feet just to help me relax,

…watching the kids shriek with delight when you run around the house with them on your back,

…kisses planted on my cheek in the kitchen,

…witnessing the births of our children, and rejoicing over the blessings that God has entrusted into our care,

…coming home with my favorite coffee,

…forgetting and forgiving all the times I’m grumpy, whiny, or emotional,

…giving 110% at work all night and coming home to lovingly greet your wife and patiently listen to the excited children who have a hundred and one things they want to tell you as soon as you step inside the door,

…even though you work an odd schedule, you always shovel the driveway and take out the garbage and help with chores around the house because you’re a true gentleman.

…praying with and for me,

…long talks involving our deep, mutual interests: homeschooling, politics, sports, and economics, sex and fantasies

…how you always ask, “Can I bring breakfast home?” exactly when I’m feeling overwhelmed and way behind on everything,

…how you send me text messages every night from work asking how my day’s going and and never forgetting to write: “I Love you!”

…how you lean back, pat your stomach after dinner and say, “Thanks for the good food, baby,” even if it was one of my experiments gone wrong,

…I love how I fit perfectly inside your embrace when you wrap your arms around me and say, “Let’s just hug for a few minutes,”

…the interest you take in this little blogging hobby of mine and how you happily take the time to read and edit my posts even though you could be doing so many other things,

…the way you put your family first, the way you mean what you say and say what you mean, the way you have rarely ever raised your voice at me in anger, the way you make us feel safe, secure, cherished, and treasured.

We are so alike, and so different, in all the right ways. You are my best friend, and I am so blessed that God chose you to be my husband. And that you feel the same way. We feel equally blessed—and I love that. I love us. I love our life together. I love you.

The way you love me, the way you have come into my life, I wish that this journey never ends till I die. Thanks for making this day special in my life. Happy Anniversary, my love you are my soul mate and I was incomplete without you.

Traditional Wedding Anniversary Gift

Posted by Lady M on January 16, 2014
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Marriage. Tagged: , . Leave a Comment

If you’ve been reading our blog awhile you know that this weekend is our wedding anniversary. Cagedmonkey and I met over 14 years ago playing a game online. We met in person on January 18th, 2000 and we’re married 3 years later on the same date.

Well each year that we celebrate our anniversary I like to take a peek at the traditional wedding anniversary gifts and see if I can manage to do something to fit it. Like last year the traditional gift is something made from tin. Since we don’t have lots of money, I have to be creative when it comes to these things. I took a piece of tin foil, shaped it into a heart and gave it to cagedmonkey for our anniversary. 🙂

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This year was no different, yesterday I was looking to see what the traditional 11th wedding anniversary gift was. I found out the most ironic thing and also got that "God is damn good!" feeling when I saw that the gift is STEEL!

Isn't that the most awesome thing at the current point of our relationship? Plus it's a bonus that I just ordered the new custom Steelworxx Revenge chastity device. It's just so fitting for an 11th anniversary! :)~

Male Chastity & Cuckolding

Posted by Lady M on January 15, 2014
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

We wanted to write a post about cuckolding because a lot of assumptions are that couples who engage in male chastity are almost always into cuckoldry. This is actually not the case. While it seems that traditional cuckolding is more popular these days in the world of kink is not a necessity of couples who practice male chastity. It’s definitely not something we get into… in the traditional sense – which I’ll explain in a moment. Being a cuckoldress or “HotWife,” in my opinion, takes some emotional sacrifice. I’m not the person who can have sex with someone without some emotional connection. I’m also not into sharing my toys, but that’s another story.

So what exactly is cuckolding?
I got this text from The Daily Beast and I feel like it describes it pretty well.

Cuckoldry is defined as a wife’s infidelity. Chaucer and Shakespeare characterized it as the ultimate shame. So perhaps it’s no surprise that today it’s developed into a fairly popular fetish. The Internet is rife with husbands enthusiastically soliciting other men—often larger, hotter, sexier men than themselves—to have sex with their wives while they watch.

“The high point of cuckolding is when your wife says she wants the other guy all the time and never wants you.”

This isn’t like swinging, and it’s not a threesome. Cuckolded men (aka “cucks”) only observe their wives’ infidelities, they don’t participate. And that’s why they find it a turn-on: They’re left out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by mental anguish.

Cuckolding is rapidly emerging as the alt-sex fetish of choice for American intellectuals. Just check out the online forums like OurHotWives.org/forum, where letter-perfect postings celebrate cuckoldry as a cerebral pursuit, transcending ordinary voyeurism and S&M as a dangerous game involving jealousy, misery, gratitude, shame, sharing, sublimation, lust, and trust.

Now, I’d mentioned that we aren’t into cuckolding in the traditional sense and that’s because I feel like this type of thing, being as psychological as it is, can come in many different forms. Our “pseudo-cuckolding” is more of a humiliation/jealousy thing in regards to the husband. Let me tell you a little about what the fetish is for us. And maybe this isn’t cuckolding at all but, whatever, did I ever say I was an expert? 🙂

So, for us, the thing that gets my hubby the most is knowing, in very great detail (reading/pics/video), about another having what he is aching to have. In this case an erection, being able to touch himself and of course an orgasm. Think about that guy friend of yours who was sleeping with every girl he could and telling you all about his encounters when you couldn’t even get a date with your own hand.

It’s one thing to talk about another man getting those things but what really drives this fetish home is having a “boy-friend” willing to brag like crazy to cagedmonkey all about getting hard, even morning wood, stroking himself and of course squirting that hot load of cum wherever he wants!

This is where we’ve made things interesting. I’ve made “friends” with a boy who is just a young horny little thing and loves to stroke himself multiple times a day. He also loves to talk and brag about that fact, so he works perfectly into my little plan of jealousy. What brings the humiliation and pseudo-cuckoldry into it is the fact that I make cagedmonkey email this particular boy-friend with erotic photos of me and he has to ask this guy to enjoy the pictures of his wife and to stroke his cock and cum from them. He then has to email and thank him for doing so. In return the boy-friend will then email him back to brag all about what it felt like to have an erection while looking at me, to stroke while imagining cumming on my big beautiful tits and then to explode cum from his cock in response. Even sending pictures of his erect penis, hand mid-stroke and end result. Videos of those things happening are also fantastic ways to frustrate my locked up man.

These online (and sometimes text message) encounters can be very frustrating and, at the same time, arousing to cagedmonkey. There is also great potential in making things much worse for him if there was ever to be a speakerphone conversation!

Could you imagine if we ever met up with this boy-friend in person and he pulled his nice hard cock out in front of us, stroked it and came? It just makes me giggle thinking about it. 🙂

There are many ways to make a fantasy or fetish work for you… even if you aren’t into it in the traditional sense. Sometimes you just need to think out of the box and keep your fantasies alive and kickin’. Then again some fantasies are better left in the mind and worked in words. Whatever makes you an your partner happy is what you should be doing!

Enjoy!

My Revenge – Steelworxx

Posted by Lady M on January 13, 2014
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 12 comments

Just a short note to say that I placed an order to Steelworxx for the Revenge. We want a second device with less access so this one looks good for us.
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He is based in Germany but his website says turn around time is 4 weeks… hopefully the device is done within the 4 weeks and then shipping doesn’t take too long!

So I ordered it on Saturday and got an email that the order was sent & received by the system. Dietmar (the owner) then contacted me by email today (usually within one business day) once he got the order and agreed that he can make our custom device. He then sent me an invoice for either a bank transfer or PayPal payment. I sent ours through PayPal. It was pretty simple, when sending the money I just chose EUR so he was paid in Euros.

The Revenge was actually cheaper, including shipping, than the Mature Metal Jail Bird. I just hope the quality is the same or better.

Well, I’ll keep you posted once we get the device! 🙂 Should be very interesting!